When My Kids Prefer the Neighbor's House to Our Own

So here’s a situation I’ve been grappling with lately. It started last month when my son came home from school one day looking particularly glum. He had gotten into trouble during recess for being part of some silly game, and his teacher gave him a warning that he might not get recess privileges again if it happened again. That made him sad enough to tell me about it the moment he got through the door. I knew this kid next door was always trying to rope my son into games, like tag or hide-and-seek. My son mentioned his name and how much fun they had together during recess breaks from class. As a mom, I couldn’t help but feel both proud that he’s making friends and a little bit worried about the potential consequences if things keep going this way. But then something unexpected happened: my daughter also began telling me all about how great it is at their neighbor's house. She was excited to talk about staying there longer after school because they let her play with more toys than I do, and she says there’s always a new game waiting for them. It seemed like the kids were finding this place endlessly entertaining. The thing that really made me feel out of my league? After both my kids mentioned how much fun it is at their neighbor's house, they started asking to go over there more often, even after doing their homework and chores! That’s when I decided it was time for a heart-to-heart chat with them. We sat down together and talked about the importance of spending quality time as a family too. But that conversation didn’t change much. The kids still want to spend more time at this neighbor's house than they do ours, and frankly, it makes me feel a bit unloved sometimes. I’ve asked other parents how they handle similar situations but everyone seems so different in their approaches. Is it just my imagination, or are they really spending too much time there compared to what’s normal? What can I do differently as a parent that won’t make them feel like we’re being unfair? Is this normal?